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March 9th,2010
There are many people who claim that personal development only involves stepping outside your comfort zone.
In some ways I can agree, but stepping out of your comfort zone can be a risky thing to do. For one thing it can cause setbacks (when there’s failure) and when that occurs it can actually put you many steps backwards in your personal development
Try instead to expand the area of your comfort zone, as this will give your personal development a chance to be more secure and lasting. When you do things outside your comfort zone – whatever it is – there is no security. However, if you’ve expanded your comfort zone, all your personal development will be safe inside it, and if you continue to expand, both your personal development and your comfort zone can grow together.
If you’re thinking with a more expansive comfort zone, you will start to see so much that you haven´t been able to see before.
Think of this: I was seeking for keys many years, but the door was always opened!
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March 7th, 2010
I’d like to start with a quote from Alexander Graham Bell:
”When one door closes another opens, but we often look so long and regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
Aren’t there many times in life where you see all the hard and negative things, and through this you miss all the opportunities that occur throughout your life? Now many of you may claim that this is nonsense and say “But just look at me – I’ve not had a life filled with opportunities!”
This is exactly what I mean! You’ve already had many opportunities in life, but you’ve chosen to focus on the negative ones and this has made you miss them all. Your focus has meant that you’ve looked at the closed door instead of the open one.
It’s absolutely true that life can often be both hard and cruel. I too have been through many hard times and what I considered to be totally slammed doors. But believe me – for every closed or slammed door there are always open ones, even if it can be hard see and understand.
So how do our Attitudes affect this? Well, much in your life is determined by your Attitude, including your general well-being – for instance, your Attitude towards failures, an open mind, taking responsibility for your life etc. (This list could have been very long!)
My message is: However dark and hopeless it seems to be, there’s always a light if your attitude is to believe that there is.
Finally: There was a great singer and songwriter in Sweden. His name was Björn Afselius and in one of his songs there was a line: ”Above the clouds it is always light, but it can be hard to believe when you are never allowed to see it”
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March 5th, 2010
Today I was visiting my mother; she is 78 years old and for the past seven years she’s been in a wheelchair. She’s living in an apartment for elderly people who need some kind of help for the daily tasks they have to do.
To me it’s emotionally touching to see someone being so happy and grateful for a visit; she looks up from her wheelchair and her eyes are shining like the sun. To see a person’s eyes with that light of happiness is great to experience – and it’s just because I’m visiting her! This gives me so much strength for the rest of the day, in fact, for several days afterwards actually.
Just consider how little we in the western world realize that giving unconditional love to someone gives so much in return. My mum gives precisely the same amount of love, but of course in a different way, as she did when I was a child.
Visit your elderly parents as much as possible because some day – and it will come without any doubt – you won’t have them anymore, only the memories.
You can create so much happiness and joyfulness just by a visit, and it will break your parent’s sometimes monotonous daily pattern. Why hesitate for lack of time? In my view (and using the appropriate word) it’s “bullshit!” No-one is a victim of lack of time, it’s only a matter of how you plan and organize it.
Be generous with your humanity and love because some day you might long for it yourself! Just try to imagine what it’s like for a person that’s longing in vain!
How do you resolve all this? As always, it’s just a matter of ATTITUDE and don’t forget it. It’s just your ATTITUDE!
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March 3th, 2010
You wake up in the morning and find it’s raining outside! The most common reaction to this is dejection, depression, sometimes anger and the comment” Not again today!”
Just think for a moment what bad weather really is and who determines the criteria for it. The answer is the same for all of us of course, it’s you, and only you, who determines it and it’s you, and only you, who decides how to react to it. You can decide if you want to be a victim of the law of nature or act with responsibility and accept that this is the common weather where you live. You’re living in a free country so you can leave for another, sunnier place, whenever you decide to.
Don’t let the rain spoil your day, take control and act with responsibility. Think – okay it is raining but that won’t spoil my day – it will be a great day because it’s my choice.
There are so many people who are more or less worrying every day about what the weather will be like tomorrow. This is an absolute waste of time and effort as you can’t do anything about it unless you move!
Don’t waste your time – choose to act responsibly before becoming a victim.
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February 28th, 2010
When I’m running at the gym, sometimes I don´t listen to personal development talks on my I-pod, I just watch the TV in front of the jogging belt.
Recently when I did this the Oprah Winfrey show was on. Since I hardly ever watch TV at home and certainly not specific shows, I put my attention on following it. The topic was how families handle their family economy, whether they make a budget and if so, how they did it.
I must admit that I was quite shocked when I heard their reasons for participating, particularly as these families were from the US middle classes, not families with poor incomes. Let me give you some examples:
One couple argued about whether they should spend $ 35,000 on what the woman thought was a very nice and “luxurious” wedding, or $ 20,000 on a wedding with lots of beer and vodka which the man wanted! The real circumstances for them were that their total income per month was $ 7,700 and they had expenses of $ 7,850. In other words, they were already in debt by $ 150 every month! In my world I wonder how they can even think of such weddings.
There was another family with two teenage daughters who proposed to study at quite an expensive private college. The father wanted to take a loan of $ 160,000 for each daughter! They went through what the actual monthly cost of these loans would be, and it was obvious that it would cause them a huge deficit in their budget every month. In spite of this the father still proposed to take the loan!
The expert on the program then turned to one of the daughters and asked what she would study in order to get a job with a good income when she graduated. The answer was that she didn’t know but she would find out during her studies! Then she asked the father why they couldn’t choose a college that wasn’t private and therefore wasn’t so expensive, and the answer was that he wanted them to study at a ‘good school’.
There were several other families after these two and all of them had a similar confused reality and confusion around money and economy.
In a way I’m not surprised that much of the so-called financial crisis started in the US, when you see these people and families that in my view are so incredibly stupid that to me it’s almost unbelievable. Please don’t forget that we in the western world often act in a similar fashion, so I imagine that many of you reading may know others acting like this – and may do so yourself!
All that I have described above has to do with our attitudes – towards fear, money, our abilities, success, weakness- you name it.
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24th February, 2010
Today when I was jogging at the gym, I was listening to one of my favorite speakers on Personal Development – Les Brown. Here are some examples of what he says:
“The universe moves aside for those of you who know where you’re heading and you will therefore live superior lives. When you do things you will find that they work immediately.”
”Out of the blue – help, money etc. will appear when you hadn’t expected it. How come? You live in a higher consciousness, self consciousness and humbleness”
” This will not happen to those who dare not live their dreams or challenge their fears, or who live with small-minded thinking rather than expansion and growth. Other people don’t understand what is happening to you, they simply don’t identify themselves with it”.
Personally I find that all this mirrors very well how a good Attitude and acting upon your dreams, results in your dreams showing up.
Your dream is waiting for you – and it’s waiting for you alone! How will you act upon it?
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February 21th, 2010
In Sweden we generally we have very little sunshine at this time of year. Consequently, if you ask someone how things are you very often get this answer: “Thank you, everything would be fine if it wasn´t for the weather!”
I would argue that it’s always up to the individual to decide whether they allow – the rain for instance – to determine that it’s a bad day. It’s a matter of ATTITUDE whether a rainy day always equals a bad day.
In Sweden we are free people; we can move around and leave our country whenever we want. If you find the type of weather we have in Sweden hard to accept, then you are free to leave. It’s up to you, and you alone, to decide what you allow to stop you from moving to a warmer and sunnier place. If you decide to stay, then don’t complain – you know that rainy days are common so it won’t be of any use.
It comes down to a matter of choosing between taking responsibility for your actions or being a victim. Which sounds best for you?
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February 19th, 2010
Those who regularly follow my Blog will know that I recently arrived back from a visit to India.
This journey gave me some additional ideas about how we evaluate things in life. It’s only necessary to have an open mind to see and embrace different values, but in order to have an open mind it’s first necessary to have a good Attitude.
While I was in India when it ‘hit’ me, this is probably not a specifically Indian phenomenon:
‘Poor’ people are often thin, frequently underfed and they sometimes struggle to look like ‘wealthy’ people, in other words, overweight. On the other hand, ‘rich’ people often struggle to get thinner and lose weight!
Isn’t it a strange world with quite strange Attitudes? What do you think?
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February 18th, 2010
I’m close to finishing my first book (in Swedish) ‘Thirteen Principles for Success in The Game of Life (what I believe schools should teach but they don’t!)’
When I first got back my text from the publisher there were a lot of corrections for me to make, questions to answer about why I wrote specific things and so on. As I said – it was my first book so I’m not too skilled yet, and I became very frustrated and sad.
After a day or so my frustration changed into a kind of ‘fighting spirit’ and I thought “I’ll show them that I can do it and that I’m willing to make the adjustments necessary in order to create a publishable book” (which is what I’ve always wanted to have.) I realized of course that they were right in their opinions, so now it was time to start again to ensure I made a good job of it. It took a great deal of effort to clean it up, but the outcome was good and, just like so much in our lives, it proved that the greater the effort – the greater the outcome.
The funny thing was that I was forced to look over the thirteen principles again and by the time I’d re-read the parts on Attitude, passion and endurance, I was back in my normal way of thinking again.
I strongly believe that my attitude towards and working on my personal development, helped me a lot to get back to normal.
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February 15th, 2010
Yes – now there’s a new day to give you feelings of regret if you don’t do something to show your love to your loved one!
Isn’t it a miserable state of affairs that we need help from trade and businesses to be able to do this? And what is the help they’ve provided us with? They’ve been so kind as to create a specific day in which they’ve invested in specific things for us to buy, just so that we can give them to our loved-one. I must say I get tears in my eyes when thinking of their helpfulness!
Of course I know that this day is named after a Christian martyr, but in my view it’s no longer celebrating him that’s the purpose.
Seriously, is it wise to create a specific day when we are supposed to show love? For me this day can pass without my noticing it – like all the other days that have a specific theme and that have also been created to make us buy more stuff. If you can’t show your love on other days and the many other really significant days for you, it’s better for you not to do it on this day – it seems a little pathetic.
Show your love as much as possible all the time because if you really love them they deserve it. This should not be the result of a command; it must be natural and based upon real love.
All this is like so much in our society today – a matter of ATTITUDE. Do you take responsibility for your life and how you live it, or do you let others take it? If you don’t start taking responsibility for your own life and for strengthening your Attitude you will, without any doubt, be ruled by all this Valentine’s Day hype and any others.
Start today to create your own life which you control, and start by ignoring this nonsense with Valentine’s Day. With the better Attitude this will start to give you, act with love the whole of next week and after that, as often as you like.
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